Those who know me know that I am a fairly social person. I like to be around people. That being said, I have always been fortunate to find that core group of friends pretty quickly in the various areas in which I have lived. I made some really good friends at the singles ward up here, but have found it kind of difficult to make friends in the family ward. It is a whole different agenda, with different schedules and groups. There are the young families, the older families, those who have been in the ward forever and those who I just don't mesh well with. There aren't any young marrieds without kids, so making friends has been hard. Don't get me wrong; I've met some people and we hang out semi-frequently. And I still see my "single-ward" friends regularly. But a family ward is so weird as an adult. It is going to take some time to get used to it. I have devised a plan, of sorts. I've been showing up at the activities, offering to be in charge of certain aspects of events, and just plain putting myself out there. It is taking time, more than I am accustomed to, but I have become friendly with some of the ladies in the ward. And I have had a ladies night at my house with more to follow.
Transitions are hard, and not the most fun. I'm grateful for the friends I made in the singles ward up here. It helps keep me sane. And I am going to keep working at making friends in my ward; I think I will be there for a very long time.
4 comments:
Good for you for putting yourself out there. That is the hardest part but that is how you make friends. :)
LADIES NIIIIIIIIIIGHT! WOOT WOOT! C'mon, girl, gimme a date!
I totally know what you mean. But if it makes you feel better, neither of the new couples have kids.
I'm impressed with your sociality, as always. I'm sorry it's taken so long, but I have complete faith in your ability to make more friends.
As an extra idea, we're starting up a couples' FHE night (we're aiming for every other week but may be happy if we make it once a month), so we can get to know more people (and also not be constantly switching jobs for FHE.) :-)
I totally know what you mean. It's been hard for me too, so good luck! And I was totally drawn to you the first day you showed up in the singles' ward, so I'm sure you'll find your niche soon :)
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